Danielle Lynn: How Positivity Can Change Your Life AND Your BusinessDecember 1, 2017
Can learning to love yourself really better your business?
Danielle Lynn says “yes!”
I’ve been following Danielle’s fascinating career for years. Once one of the United States’ best copywriters (known then as “The Clear Copywriter”), Danielle always had a positive outlook. However, in recent years, she’s taken positivity to a whole new level — making self-love her business, and crediting it for her life’s successes.
Danielle has been featured in articles, podcasts, and live workshops around the world. I was lucky enough to catch her in California right after a recent trip to Peru. We hopped on Skype and she shared some of her wisdom with 133T’s readers.
133T’s Interview with Danielle Lynn
Lauren Tharp: Hello, Danielle! Great to have you with us today! Would you mind telling the 133T readers a little about yourself?
Danielle Lynn: Sure thing, My name is Danielle Lynn and I help people live the lives they most want through complete and unconditional self love.
I’ve seen in my life that the majority of pain and stress we experience comes from resisting the different inner and outer situations in our lives. When we shift from resisting to embracing ourselves unconditionally in each moment, we open ourselves to connect with who we truly are. In turn, we begin to connect with life in meaningful ways that don’t require us to “pretend” that we’re something we’re not.
Lauren Tharp: You mentioned on your website that you went through an “awakening” in 2015… What was that experience like? And is it necessary to have that sort of epiphany in order for someone to embrace self-love?
Danielle Lynn: I’m glad you brought that up, because I feel it’s important to ‘de-mystify’ the whole awakening experience, and really highlight how we’re all constantly in a state of awakening.
All my life I had been a spiritual seeker. This came to a head for me first in 2012 when I was on the brink of deep depression. At that time, my ex-fiancé of the time had left, I lost my job, my house… just about everything. I felt I had lost the life I had known.
I remember vividly laying on my floor, wishing a meteor would fall and crush me. (Specifically a localized meteor, so I wouldn’t hurt my cat or anyone else). Then, at that moment, I had an epiphany: I could keep dwelling in pain, or I could make a new choice.
The idea of that was so radical, that I started laughing out loud. It seemed almost too simple to help me, but, in that moment, my perspective had been shifted.
For the next several years, I studied perspectives and practiced presence. Then, in 2015, I began to experience a series of “awakenings.”
These experiences felt like complete clarity. A sense of deep love. Like everything was always okay. The idea that anything could not be okay as it was simply didn’t exist in this state.
It was like my entire heart had opened up, and I found the whole universe inside.
As time went on, the experience of expanded love was still there, but now I found my human self had also remained. This perplexed me at first.
I had once thought “awakening” would get rid of all that perceived “bad stuff.” I came to see that awakening wasn’t really a destination but a moment-to-moment experience.
My perception of awakening ultimately shifted. I once thought It had to be all bells and whistles that signified “yep, you’re finally there. You’re awakened, good job.” But, as I realized that we really are all “awakening” in our own ways in each moment, I saw that my own radical shift was a self-created prophecy built on belief, and the permission I gave myself to access who I already was.
In other words, I don’t believe anyone “needs” to experience a radical awakening to be who they are. Further, the idea of awakening might be better explained by “opening up our perceptions to include all of who we are.”
Because, often times, we create beliefs, rules, and structures for who we are, how things happen in our lives, and who we get to be.
And, often times, when we tell stories we feel pain around, we think we have to “fix” ourselves or “awaken” to get better.
The beauty I have found is that no one is truly broken, and no one is “more” than another. We can truly FEEL broken. We can FEEL less than or more than. And our feelings are a valid, powerful experience. However, as we embrace and accept our feelings, our perceptions, and all of ourselves as we are in each moment, we connect to the wholeness that we are — even while sitting in the paradox of our human lives.
Further, I came to realize that the idea that there was any “bad” part of me was a judgement that wasn’t really based in anything other than a perception, or belief I was holding.
And the more I loved and accepted ALL of me in the moment without expectation that I would change, the more I connect to that wholeness in the Now.
Lauren Tharp: Fascinating stuff. And I can attest to you never being “broken.” I’ve always admired you. I’ve followed your career for a long time now. You were one of my mentors back in my copywriting days! You were ALWAYS filled with positivity and self-love, even if you didn’t realize it back then. Now that you have realized it, I see your business thriving more than ever!
Can you tell us a little bit about how positivity and self-love have enhanced your career?
Danielle Lynn: Thank you. That means a lot to me, Lauren.
Yes! Being more connected to myself has allowed me to take greater “risks” in my business, and in my life.
Overall, I’d say the biggest shift I’ve experienced from embracing self-love, is the permission to allow my business to evolve and grow as I do.
Sometimes we get very attached to our “life roles” — I know I do time to time. Self love allows me to lovingly explore new possibilities, without “judging” my business path.
For one, focusing on self love has allowed me to give myself permission to “fail forward.”
What I mean by this is, since I’m going to myself for my own validation, I feel more open to try new things. In the last several years, I went from hiding to hosting a radio show, releasing two new books, speaking on stage (that was a huge one for me!), hosting live workshops, collaborating with fascinating companies, and I have traveled the world and met some amazing people.
Some of these projects were profitable in a business sense, some were not. With self love, I’m able to “embrace the momentum” of the experiences, appreciate what I learn, and focus on growing what is working — while still being open to new challenges — which is so key for radical business growth.
I also have lately been living by the philosophy of “aiming to get rejected at least once per day.” That might sound a little intense, but what this means to me is I have empowered permission to ask for what I want — and push the envelope a little bit.
This has led me to receiving more money from clients and projects, I’ve gotten into some cool places, been invited to events I would have normally got been invited to, and I’ve gotten some fun loot from it too.
Lauren Tharp: That’s fantastic! What tips would you give someone who wants to bring more positivity and self-love into their life and business? What’s a good starting point — something that they could do TODAY to change their perspective?
Danielle Lynn: First, I would say, to you reading: thank you for being here, in this world, choosing to show up each day and live your life.
No matter how that looks, you are making a difference by being here and being alive.
I know personally that sometimes it can feel rough. There are days I wake up excited, and there are days I wake up and would rather go back to sleep all day.
I think we get caught up sometimes in what it looks like to change the world. We fight ourselves for not being positive enough, for not making enough money, for any reason you can think of.
So If there was an overall perspective I could share with you, it’s the following: We don’t become who we “want to be” by rejecting who we are now.
I tried for many years to “fix” my life by “fixing” me — and I found that, ultimately, the parts of me that I was rejecting were parts of me that wanted to be heard and accepted for who and what they were.
The more I rejected any of myself, any of my life, any of my experience, the more pressure I felt.
What changed for me was realizing my perspectives could be subjective — but my feelings were VALID. Trying to override my feelings or get mad at myself for not “feeling a certain way” was only shutting me down.
So today, or whenever you feel inspired…
When you feel something, instead of reacting, try this: Listen and observe how you feel. Don’t try to “change” the feeling. This might feel really uncomfortable at first. It might feel downright unbearable.
Even if you feel you can’t do that, then accept fully that in this moment, that is true for you.
Every moment you can, validate yourself by simply listening and allowing yourself the dignity of your experience.
This profound, subtle shift will have untold impacts in your inner and outer life. And remember, if you can’t do it in this moment, then the next moment is always open to you.
Lauren Tharp: Great viewpoint. Thank you for that. But what about business owners who manage employees? We’ve already written about how to give “negative” feedback in a positive light, the value of “play” in business, and even the importance of video games…
Is there anything else a business leader can do to keep the positive morale of their staff high?
Danielle Lynn: Absolutely — in fact, self love is key to encouraging and inspiring others.
How we treat and view ourselves has a resonating effect in how we treat everyone in our lives, including employees.
By treating yourself with respect through listening to yourself, honoring and respecting your feelings, and by allowing yourself the dignity of your current experience, you will find yourself reacting less, and responding with clarity.
This is key, especially in high pressure business situations. For many of us, we unintentionally mix our “inner issues” with our “business.” This can lead to flare-ups, feelings of resentment, issues with productivity, and more.
As a business owner, I suggest you begin by treating your employees with the same respect you would treat yourself.
People can subliminally pick up on what you think about them. You may be their leader in the work space, but when you dignify their humanity, they can feel that respect. In turn, employees who are a good fit will often naturally work smarter and more efficiently. They will WANT you and the company to success.
Lauren Tharp: Thank you for your unique perspective. I just have one more thing, and then I’ll let you go. Please tell us about your new book!
Danielle Lynn: Absolutely. The latest book I’ve released is called 27 Soul Perspectives.
I had the idea for this book years ago, when I was facing challenging times in my life. Inside the book are 27 different perspectives created to help give the reader a “new view” on their life, so they can see the brighter side of any situation in their life.
You can read the book from cover-to-cover, or you can close your eyes, focus on what you’d like help with right now, then open it to any page you feel drawn to!
I’ve even done this with the book myself, and it really does uplift you! One of my clients who was given an early copy of the book has told me that it helped her find her boyfriend through establishing a deeper sense of self love and respect in her life.
There is a perspective in there for just about any type of situation, and I’ve found it to be a wonderful tool for getting myself out of ruts, and into a space of self love and appreciation.
Right now you can get it on Amazon (kindle-fied).
Lauren Tharp: Thank you very much for your time. We at 133T appreciate you! Have a wonderful evening.
Danielle Lynn: I appreciate you all too. Thank you for the insightful questions!
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